Friday, January 30, 2009

Terms and conditions

It z a different feeling when your parents think that you are good enough to choose a partner for you and they want you to go for a love marriage .It z rocking but it z difficult..They want you to fall in love with a person who z smart, earning enough , should be from the same religion ( in some cases should be from the same caste) and should b from the same industry , decent enough to talk bla bla bla.... How impossible z that???It z a big list but you need follow it like anything , you cannot even afford to miss one of the points...I have been watching all this from long time now..couple of my friends are going through all this ..Poor girls!! , they will do all the work for their parents and in the end they will get a tag of " Love marriage"... I suppose i can never understand this ..

I have a friend who is married for two years now...She also comes under same tag " Love marriage". Before actually accepting proposal from her hubby , she considered all the factors. " Is the guy good enough to get married, how many siblings etc." I am probably confused, i would never call it as a Love marriage

What if you fall in love with a person who is from different religion/caste etc?? Well in that case you need to end it right away because you are not good enough to choose a partner and if that person is fulfilling the criteria’s set by your parents/society, u become a lovely and a fantastic child ... May be I m failing to understand the better side of it...Am i the only one suffering??

Nobility of Sacrifice is better than Happiness of Rebellion ...This is wat makes all the difference ....happiness in your family is worth thousands of sacrifices.But y to break a heart to make your family happy?? Don't we deserve a world where all these boundaries wouldn't matter...Who is going to start ?? Probably those who have suffered. "It happened with us , it shouldn't happen with our kids" ..but i could forsee people of our generation shouting at their kids and saying " Should be from different sex " ....

Ahhhhhhhhhh!!! Yes ,Some things in this world would never change ......................

14 comments:

  1. [but i could forsee people of our generation shouting at their kids and saying " Should be from different sex " ....]

    you said it so rightly....every generation has a challenge,this gonna be a challenge for this generation.

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  2. Daanish ....I wonder wat would be the challenge of next generation ......Cant think of anything ...my mind stops here

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  3. But y to break a heart to make your family happy??

    Probably coz it is our family who made us what we are....and it will only be our family who wud b beside us no matter what dire situation v r in....

    Navneet

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  4. Nobility of Sacrifice is better than Happiness of Rebellion ...kahan se churaya ladkeeeee..

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  5. if decisions in life were that easy, der wud ve been no charm in living it!!
    life's like dat darling.. n d sooner we accept dat..d better v wud b!!

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  6. Btw ..i dnt mind same sex marriages ....

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  7. @onthewingsofadream ...wat say then ?? Should i formally propose u ..... ;)

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  8. @onthewingsofadream ..Let's get married on Feb 14 then....

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  9. @onthewingsofadream ....Can't wait ;)

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  10. A very well written post. As a person from from conservative south India and marrying a girl from north was realy exhilerating. I think it is Goethe who said " one must FEEL that his/her love is the thing which no other has felt before or going to feel hereafter".FEEL IT LUBNA AND MARRY.The marriage may be a failure but it should not deter you to love and feel the pain or happiness of LOVE.

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  11. Thanks a lot captainjohann!! Well i really loved this "one must FEEL that his/her love is the thing which no other has felt before or going to feel hereafter" ....Will keep this in mind :) .....

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